In a recent conversation relating to something of a spiritual nature - someone made a quick, offhand comment: IS IT TRUE, THOUGH? OR IS IT JUST CONFIRMATION BIAS? This reminded me that there are a few cognitive biases to be aware of as we evaluate things in our world,...

OFTEN PEOPLE DON'T WANT US TO FIX THE PROBLEM when they're telling us about a frustration or challenge in their life - at least not right away - even if we can see the answer, or it would be super easy to do as far as we're concerned. They might not even want us to...

RESISTANCE IS FUTILE - it's the famous catch phrase of the Borg in Star Trek (well, it's famous to us Star Trek fans, anyway 😉 ). But as it applies to… ~ what is - right at this moment ~ what has already happened - in the past ~ how we feel - right now… …resistance IS...

A dear friend gave me a compliment the other day, and told me that I HOLD SPACE IN A WAY THAT ALLOWS PEOPLE TO FEEL SAFE to open up to see and explore different parts of themselves. I was honoured to receive this comment, and touched that she feels this way about our...

WHAT DOES THE WORD ‘WORRY’ MEAN TO YOU? How does it differ from ‘anxiety’ or ‘thinking’ or ‘rumination’? Sure there are formal definitions, but we all have slightly different ideas of what each of these words mean. I had a conversation with my partner the other day,...

ARE YOU SEARCHING FOR HAPPINESS? Pause that for moment. Consider the possibility that the idea of searching for happiness - or even inner peace, or joy, or whatever word you’d use to describe what you’re seeking - is a bit misleading. It can seem like it’s a thing...

Recently I was REFLECTING ON THE IDEA THAT: THERE’S NO NEED TO LOOK BACK AND REGRET or be concerned about things that have already happened, as we can: ~ trust that everything that has happened in our life - ‘good’ or ‘bad’ as we define it - was meant to lead us to...

You’ve probably heard it said DON’T TAKE WHAT OTHERS SAY PERSONALLY. Or maybe IT’S REALLY MORE ABOUT THEM THAN YOU - typically said about something someone has said or done as a means to help you to not take it personally. Have you thought that perhaps it sounds great...

I wonder if the often elusive state of inner peace we seek can simply be found at the junction or sweet spot between: ~ an ever-increasing genuine care for others, the world around us, what we value, what excites us and what we feel called to do, *and* ~ giving fewer...

WHAT IS INNER WORK? In conversation with a dear friend a few weeks ago, I said something like ‘…I guess it’s improved a bit after the inner work I’ve done.’ The phrase just sort of rolled off my tongue. But afterward I thought about what that term really brings to...

For those of us who get caught up in WORRYING WHAT OTHER PEOPLE MIGHT BE THINKING ABOUT US - whether we’re saying the right things, sounding smart or clever enough, whether we’re doing enough, looking attractive or presentable or respectable enough or whether we have...

WHEN IT COMES TO FINDING FAULT, ASSIGNING BLAME, AND BEING CRITICAL - I think it's natural to want to look for the source of a problem - who/what is at fault. Or perhaps it's not natural but it's how we're conditioned: society has us wanting to look for what is at...

‘COURAGE LIVES ON THE OTHER SIDE OF TRYING.’ ~Jason Bateman ‘Do it - be uncomfortable - embrace the nervousness - who knows what’s gonna happen.’ ~Wil Arnett ‘If you don’t know you can do it, that’s good. Or if you fear that you can’t, give it a shot.’ ~ Steve Carrell...

IT’S OK TO FEEL DISCONTENT, or frustration, or to dislike something in your life - even if you are also grateful for what you have. I offer this as a reminder for each of us not to judge or dismiss our own feelings, and not to stifle them or think that we ‘shouldn’t...

WHEN SOMETHING HAS BEEN IN OUR MIDST FOR QUITE SOME TIME - perhaps something we’ve thought about doing but kept pushing to the side, or maybe an opportunity right under our nose that we hadn’t noticed or seemed too difficult - on which we only now feel called to take...