THE LESS WE HOPE OR EXPECT OR ATTEMPT TO WILL A PERSON TO BE OR ACT OR REACT A CERTAIN WAY – even if we think it would be the ‘right’ or ‘proper’ or just the ‘reasonable’ way to do so by our standards, and…
…the less we say to ourselves: I wish they would just [do this, say that, be more like this]!…
…the more we meet them where they’re at and accept them as they are…
…the more at ease we are likely to feel.
Perhaps we hope someone would…
~ ask us about something specific,
~ express more gratitude,
~ speak with a different tone of voice,
~ be more interested in what we’re doing,
~ [fill in the blank with whatever you’ve hoped someone would do differently in an interaction or relationships]
…and they don’t,…
…the more we resist how they are, and the more we spend energy wanting them to be different…
…the more resistance and unrest we will feel within ourselves.
Accepting them just as they are without trying to change them nor even wishing they were different – is likely to bring more harmony to the relationship by first bringing more harmony to us, deep down. From that peaceful place we will feel more comfortable, which will support our communication in the relationship.
We may not find it to be our favourite relationship, or indeed it may be one we find we do not wish to keep, or we may wish to discuss what it is that we would like to be different about their actions or words; but…
…coming first from a place of acceptance of what is – of the present state – is one that tends to help one feel more at peace with the experience moving forward.
Wishing you a day of acceptance of what is – of how each one of us acts, reacts, and speaks differently with varied assessments of what is ‘right’ in each moment – as a starting place before wishing for change. ❤
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