I SHOULD HAVE KNOWN THIS LONG AGO!
I WISH I’D KNOWN IT SOONER!
WHY DIDN’T I REALIZE THIS!?
These statements can start you down Should Road – a bumpy uneven road of thoughts and emotions that feels uncomfortable all the way along.
What if…
… what you didn’t know until today – or last week, or until you were 80, or 35, or 21, or 57 – you weren’t supposed to know until that precise moment?
… the ‘not knowing’ contributed to all the experiences you had up until that point – all of which you wouldn’t have had if you’d already known this thing?
… all those experiences – even if you think you could/should have done without them had you known what you know now – were actually important to your growth and learning, and to the creating of friendships and connections due to being in the right place at the right time (that might not have been created had you actually known that thing earlier)?
… even though you think it would have saved yourself time, or pain, or something else, it actually might not have done that at all, and it might have led you down a different path involving spending (‘wasting’) even more time, or experiencing even more pain?
…learning it when you did was precisely the right time to learn it, to spark into motion the next set of experiences for you?
Take your next turn off of Should Road and down the Things-Are-Unfolding-Just-Right Lane – where it’s much smoother and more comfortable, you can take it easy and enjoy the view. 