Consider paying attention to the times that you think to yourself – YES, BUT – when you have something, and yet you continue to see a deficiency.
I do this. We all do it.
I also notice – particularly recently – how great it feels to acknowledge what is present, full-stop. Shining the spotlight on what I do have – and away from the perceived deficiency – has a lightness to it.
It’s the perception of deficiency that is a heavy feeling.
Some examples:
~ You notice a positive comment or ‘like’ on something you posted on social media.
🧐 Do you think to yourself: YES, BUT – I only got one ‘like,’ or only one person commented?
💜 Explore just letting it sink in that: one person liked my post; it resonated for someone. One person felt strongly enough to leave a comment on my post.
~ You think of the fact that you have one close friend, or one person you resonate with at work.
🧐 Do you think to yourself: YES, BUT – I don’t have many friends. YES, BUT – I don’t really click with most of my coworkers?
💙 Explore just letting it sink in that: I do have one close friend, or I actually have someone I connect with at work. Without seeing anything as missing: this is what you do have.
~ You consider where you live.
🧐 Do you think to yourself: YES, BUT – it’s just a small apartment. YES, BUT – I just rent. YES, BUT – I have roommates. YES, BUT – I still live with my parents?
🧡 Explore just letting it sink in that: I have an place to live that works for me right now, or I have a portion of a living space that’s mine for the time being, or I live in this space even if it’s temporary. What is it that feels good about the place you have – at least for now.
Because sometimes ‘being grateful for what you have’ is a concept that’s hard to grasp.
Gratitude can feel like a lot – it can feel effortful, when all you see is deficiency.
So, how about just start with acknowledging the things that you do have, and just letting that awareness sink in a little.
Allow yourself to rest your attention on what you have. Put mental blinders on, pull down the shutters on comparison – so that you aren’t looking around to see what else you think you could / should / or don’t have. Do this so that you can focus on the value of what you do have that is already in your life experience.
Things are always changing and shifting. Be curious about nurturing a favourable view of what you do have and how it can serve you at this moment. ☺️
Wishing you a day full of finding ways to savour the moment and the circumstances you’re in. ❤️